When getting married, everything seems positive. Most people rank the day of their marriage as the happiest day of their lives. This ranking seems to hold both during the planning stage and after having experienced the big day. Unfortunately, many marriages do not end as happily as they began.
Getting a divorce could be the best decision for a couple, but it is still tough to go through. Divorces can leave people feeling bitter, resentful, and negative. Follow our advice and suggestions below to stay positive and reconnect with yourself after your divorce.
1. Allow Yourself the Space to Grieve
Too many people think they can immediately move on after an intense experience. Recovery is part of the process of remaining strong. Take the time to create room for yourself to be easy on yourself and experience the negative emotions that come naturally at this time.
Once you have taken the time to grieve the ending of your marriage and process the negative emotions, shift your focus to the positive, happy moments you shared with your former spouse. According to one study, returning to positive memories helps your senses of well-being, life satisfaction, and self-esteem. Considering lessons learned from a past relationship can help you let go of the past.
2. A Positive Perspective on an Ending
Couples in a happy marriage have less cortisol, the stress hormone, in their bloodstream. On the flip side, people in a disrespectful or harsh marriage often experience extreme stress. Leaving a negative relationship has positive outcomes, including:
- You don’t have to experience their abusive speech or behavior
- You are now financially independent from them
- You don’t have to deal with their family
- You have more time to do what you enjoy
- You have the potential to meet someone who understands you better and responds to your needs
3. Lean Into Your Social Side
Balance is key to most things in life. Now you can balance spending time with friends and time taking care of what you need to do without a thought about your ex. Strengthening your family and friendly relationships will help to lower your stress and offer some fun after your breakup.
Breakups typically are not a happy time, but this is also the time of a new beginning. Taking care of yourself is important to move past this difficult time. The experienced and considerate attorneys at FasTrack Divorce have experience connecting with people considering divorce and taking them through the process of ending their marriage and getting what is fair in the proceedings.
Give us a call today at (248) 480-4800 to contact one of our legal team members.